#WomensRelationshipRules

#WomensRelationshipRules

Written by J. Wiggins + James Cooper


My boy James Cooper and I decided to create this list a few months ago for the ladies so that they can rewrite their list of expectations. Often times with the women that I have dated, I have seen they will take a different woman's relationship priority list and make it their own. What works for one woman does not work for every woman. There is a huge difference in being in love versus being in "Shiny Like". I have been a recipient of both and it is definitely heart breaking to hear a woman tell me that she loves me on a Monday and decides to leave me on a Thursday. It is ok for a woman to take her time to get to know a man that she is interested in and NO I'm not referring to some stupid 90 Day Rule that some single woman created in hopes of keeping men around. (That doesn't work ladies.... A man that only wants to have sex with you will wait 90 years if you are fine enough) Please check out these relationship rules and feel free to send this blog to all of your female friends. You are also more than welcome to send this to your male friends so that they can get a better understanding of their own actions and how they effect your emotions. Thanks in advance for reading !!



1) Watch how he treats his mom and sister's. How does he talk about past girlfriends.

2) STOP trying to put a label on a situation when you first start dating a man. Just have fun and let it be what it is.

3) You spend 5 minutes telling the waitress how you want your food prepared but you don't give detailed instructions to your man on how to make love to you?? Tell a man how you like and a real man will respond accordingly.

4) You ASK, you PAY... If a man wants to take you out he will... and if he doesn't he won't. Never be afraid to go get the man that you want.

5) Your kids should not be introduced to a man UNTIL you know that you are more than just "A good time" or a "late night session" to him. PERIOD.

6) Ladies... PLEASE stop taking relationship advice from your sister, homegirl, bestie, aunt, mama, and anyone else that hasn't bee in a loving and committed relationship since The Cosby Show was on primetime television.

7) Going out to eat and to the moves are GREAT date ideas but for the first 3 dates. Go somewhere quiet so that you can hold a conversation. Ask him to tell you things that are NOT on his Facebook. That way you can determine if he has hopes and dreams or if he is just a dummy with cool/thought provoking post that are stolen from someone that is cool and thought provoking in real life.

8) Sex is not a prize or a bargaining tool. ANYTHING that you WON'T/DON'T do another woman will do. Remember that the next time you decide to be stingy. (Of course this is for COMMITTED RELATIONSHIPS and not for the dude you like)

9) Don't life about what kind of a person you are. Trust me when I say that it ALWAYS comes out in the end.

10) Every woman thinks she takes care of her business in the bedroom but have never asked their man what he wants or likes in detail. anyone that kisses you always kiss you the EXACT SAME WAY that they kissed the last person. That is just the way that the human brain and muscle memory works. Adapt to your partner.

11) If he hardly talks about his kids, run away from his ass QUICK !! If he doesn't care of his kids, he won't take care of yours either. Don't believe me just watch.

12) If you want a man with good credit, nice job, owns a home, and believes in God, you must be all of those things too. Always remember that Queens get Kings and Maids get Butlers.

13) The bad men you have dealt with in the past are in the past for a reason. Stop carrying that bag of broken heart pieces into every new relationship.

14) The clothing labels that he wears, how much money he has, and what kind of car he drives won't mean a damn thing to you when you are 65 years old sitting on the porch with a man that has LOVED you ever since the first time he told you about how great his mother was.... Think about it..